I just love this picture that I totally snagged from the Audubon Society website. (Please go ahead and visit them and donate if you are able! They do so much good for our wildlife, conservation, and education). But I just had to! Look at the personality in these birds eyes!
One thing I notice is that each bird makes me feel a certain way. One looks surprised, one looks angry, one looks serios, one loving, one kind. One looks mad as hell.
None of those perceptions come from the birds though, do they? Birds don’t get mad or sad or happy or surprised. Those perceptions are all coming from me!!! And the birds are just innocently being, well, birds.
How many times a day do we see someone, a person, look at them and let ourselves think they are mad at us, or sad, or happy or worried? And well, they are just being. Not thinking of us or our feelings at all.
Personalization comes in all kinds of forms. And affects us in all kinds of ways. Owning our reactions to events can help our relationships grow. It places the responsibility of our interactions equally upon us and the people we are with. It makes things real.
Discernment is seeing things with our heart eye, without personalization. The best readers and mediums are able to do this, looking to Spirit for guidance and answers. We don’t become afraid of what we see which would be our own projected fears. And we don’t ascribe (assign) feelings we think a person is feeling onto them. We allow Spirit to speak unencumbered by our judgements. Any judgement or fear that you feel in a reading or from a reader is most likely from them! So be careful and search for the discerning medium. She or he wants to just tell you how it is!
I call to the medicine of the owl to give me discernment when I give my readings and to allow me to see Spirit in the light of truth. I ask that my projections and belief systems be removed. In life, I ask owl to help me to see what is truly before me, not what I wish to see or fear to see. This is a great practice, especially during times of vulnerability or distress. Try it out sometime and see how you feel!!!